Last updated on August 11th, 2020 at 04:44 pm
So what does it mean when a girl looks at you but does not smile or looks at you then looks away when you look at her?
This article will give you an in-depth answer to those questions and more.
And by the way, I discussed a little about this in my article on how to tell if a girl likes you but is hiding it. Make sure to check it out.
You see, girls are often secretive of expressing themselves, and this leads to a misunderstanding of their intentions.
Shy, introverted, reserved, or underconfident- many girls choose to hide their true feelings under the facade of a passive outlook.
It may be difficult for men or even other women to read through such conservative body language or a chain of indirect indications.
One such action is intensely looking at a person without smiling.
Have you ever asked yourself why do girls stare at you?
What does it mean when girls stare at you?
It is not easy to answer in a sentence.
The common mistake that we make is that we try to find the reason too quickly. But there can be multiple reasons.
Broadly we can categorize a reason in three categories:
- Positive Reasons
- Negative Reasons
- Neutral Reasons
Before you conclude, or worse, start judging her, look at some of these scenarios.
Research has proved that it is highly likely one of the following reasons is the real cause behind such an action.
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What Will I Learn?
- Positive Reasons
- Negative Reasons
- 1) The girl has heard something about you, likely from someone else
- 2) The girl is annoyed or upset with you
- 3) The girl is trying to get your attention to make others jealous
- Neutral Reasons
- Things to keep in mind before concluding
1) The girl finds you handsome or cute
It is possibly the most common reason that a girl stares at you. As the saying goes, ‘Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder’ and lucky you, she thinks you’re good-looking.
Girls stare because they like what they see, but sometimes they are apprehensive of smiling.
For instance, if you are in your teens or early twenties, girls are likely to be a little shy.
They tend to feel underconfident to make a bold move and stealing glances of a person they like is a common display of a shy-person behavior.
Another way of knowing if she is shy is when a girl looks down when she passes you. But even then, they tend to glance back. Now, there can be two kinds of glances:
- A conscious glance
- An unconscious / subconscious glance
What does it mean when a girl stares at you consciously?
I learned this by trying to differ the way a girl stare at me.
When a girl stares at you and the moment both of your eyes meet, she looks the other way, then it suggests that she acknowledges the glance.
If this happens more than once, then it is a conscious glance.
Also, if she looks down or changes her posture/position, her body language displays that she feels intimidated.
It is a positive reason and she probably enjoys it.
2) The girl is attracted to you
Even though the second scenario sounds like the first one, yet it has some differences.
Finding a person attractive generally goes beyond the looks of the person.
Attraction can be harbored based on the attributes or gestures of a person.
Many things like…
- The way a person speaks
- Their mannerisms
- Body language
- And even nuances of actions
…may be an attribute.
Looks and quirks of a person intend to stand out during their interactions or conversations.
Generally, if somebody is observing you for some time or has known you for a while, scenario 2 would be more likely than scenario 1.
How to know if a girl is attracted to you?
Let’s introduce the Second Glance Trick.
The best way to know if the girl is attracted to you is to exhibit a second glance trick.
However, do not stress or be creepy when you stare at her. Be confident, yet gentle in your approach. And always try to catch her eyes.
Looking at other features of her body might come off as offensive and is likely to cause the girls to repulse.
Most girls enjoy gossip
It could be with a close-knit of friends or with a large group of people, but women enjoy conversing and knowing things.
And one common topic of conversation has to be about boys or other known people.
Now, she may be looking at you because she has heard something about you from a friend or an acquaintance.
Girls tend to be observant
If she has heard something interesting about you, she would want to verify it for herself.
This is likely to happen when you have common friends or a common school or workplace.
If you notice that even other friends or colleagues are stealing glances at you, or giving you a weird vibe, then this scenario might be applicable.
1) The girl has heard something about you, likely from someone else
Most girls enjoy talking. It could be with a close-knit of friends or with a large group of people, but women enjoy conversing and knowing things.
And one common topic of conversation must be about boys or other known people. Now, she may be looking at you because she has heard something about you from a mutual friend or an acquaintance.
How to know if you are being talked about?
Girls tend to be observant. If she has heard something interesting about you, she would want to verify it for herself.
This is likely to happen when you have common friends or a common school or workplace.
If you notice that even other friends or colleagues are stealing glances at you, or giving you a weird vibe, then this scenario might be applicable
2) The girl is annoyed or upset with you
If she already knows you and you have passed a comment or made a judgment, then she might be annoyed or angry with you.
Research has proved that boys, in general, can be insensitive towards girls’ attitude.
That may sound casual or friendly to you, maybe hurtful to her. So, if you are close to her, and had recent interactions, this could also be a reason.
Body Languages that help us detect anger or annoyance
- Is she just looking in a way that gives you a cold feeling?
- Is she Crossing her arms when she is sitting or in front of you?
- Tightening her lips when she is staring or tensing her jaw or clenching her teeth gently
- Is she sighing frequently?
- When you speak to her, are her replies curt and short?
If you notice any of these body languages, then recollect your memory and think of any recent incident.
Girls may harbor anger for a day to up to 2 weeks (More time if something serious has occurred).
How to react if a girl is annoyed or upset with you?
The best solution, in this case, is to confront her. Be polite and say, ” I am sorry if I have offended you, but is everything okay? ”
Notice the sensitivity in this question. Here, you already apologize to her and add that your action was unintentional.
Further, you are concerned about her, which makes you sound courteous. And believe me, a little bit of courtesy goes a long way to impress a girl.
3) The girl is trying to get your attention to make others jealous
Whether to make others jealous or to tame an ego, nowadays many girls enjoy attention for selfish reasons.
The so-called “being popular” has not become a thing be it in high school, college, or workplace.
It is better to be aware of such hypocrite girls and women.
Personally, I may see a girl staring at me often, but if I have an intuition that she is faking it, I will never pursue that.
To use me as an accessory to show-off or make others jealous is disrespecting me.
Generally, when you have common friends’ circles this may be one of the reasons. Just go with your gut feeling if you feel that the girl has the right or wrong intentions.
1) The girl may look at you subconsciously
She looked at you and did not smile because she was not exactly looking at you.
She was looking in that direction and you were in the field of vision. Many a time when we are on a bus or outside our eye tends to wander.
We often fixate our gaze at something subconsciously, even though we may not be looking at it or thinking about it. It’s human behavior to stare at nothing while immersed in thoughts.
A girl looks at me and then looks away when I look at her – what does this mean?
Observe if she looked at you only once, and when she realized you looking back, she simply looked away.
If you continue staring at her for a couple more seconds, she is not likely to look back at you.
If she is a stranger or distant friend to you then this is the most likely reason. The person will show neutral body language.
She is likely to remain in her position without being flustered and avoid further eye contact with you.
2) You remind her of someone else
An old friend, a lover, or a family – you may look like someone she knows.
Generally, this is like a subconscious look.
But in this case, she is likely to look at your face rather than fixing your gaze. If she becomes conscious of your observance, she is likely to not look back.
3) The girl may be conscious of your presence
The conscious may be a result of many actions.
It could be simply because she thinks you are looking at her or you like her and could be far more complex such as you know something private about her.
In either case, she is trying to verify her suspicion and read your expressions instead.
How do you know if a girl is conscious of your presence?
She may show signs of anxiety or restlessness:
- Is she rubbing her palms or knuckles?
- Is she touching her face many times?
- Is she tapping her feet?
- Is she pointing her feet away from you?
These body languages show signs of impatience as well.
We have divided the reasons into categories.
But how do you know which category her reaction belongs to? You may still be confused as to what the real reason is.
To judge whether the implications are positive, negative or neutral, keep an eye out for the following aspects.
Things to keep in mind before concluding
1) Your relationship with her
In general, girls looking at boys but not smiling is generally a ‘shy person’ body language, often relating to a harmless flirtatious attitude.
The level of staring can go from glances to a major gaze-holding contest. But before you cross the line from flirty to creepy, the thing to consider is who you are and where you are.
If you are in high school, college, or in a workplace, and the girl is a friend or colleague, then it may be a sign of attraction towards you.
If you are in a workplace and it is a woman, then it may be more of a neutral or negative reason.
When a woman makes eye contact with you but do not smile exudes confidence and dominance.
Unlike young girls, they do not shy away from smiling.
If she looks at you but doesn’t smile, and continue watching consciously, she is probably upset with you or may have heard something about you.
The right way to approach a girl
If you want to know more or want to speak to her, you can find a mutual friend to ask about her.
Going over and saying a casual, “Hi” works too.
Keep the interaction minimal.
Pave the way for a conversation but always leave the ball in her court.
In that way, you give her the freedom to talk to you if she wants but you do not creep her out.
2) Body Language of the Person
Observe the different signs of her body language.
A positive or neutral body language includes the following;
- Open body posture and upright sitting position
- Relaxed arms and receptive facial expressions
- Open palms or tilting the head in a relaxed manner: These are generally signing when a person is deep in thoughts. This might mean a neutral body language. She may be immersed in thoughts and not really looking at you.
- Twisting the hair: this is generally a sign of flirting, and definitely a positive hint. Girls enjoy this as it helps to get the attention of the person they are observing.
- Crossed Legs: This body language can be tricky. If the girl is a mature woman, she may do it out of habit or as to appear confident. In that case, it is a sign of neutral body language. But for younger teens and tweens, this might be a sign of disinterest.
- Looking down while walking: A sign on feeling intimidated or hesitant is when a girl looks down as she passes you. This is more of a positive body language. Generally, it is noticed in young girls when they find boys good-looking.
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3) Observe her reaction
Observing a person helps to gauge the nuances of their behaviors and actions.
Microexpressions, gestures, reactions with others are some of the traits that may give away highlights of a person’s nature.
Even though many girls have similar habits yet at the end of the day, we are all individuals.
It is not possible to generalize a conclusion based on one or two girls.
Once you identify the reason for the smile is positive, negative, or neutral, you should ascertain your thoughts by further observing her.
How does she interact with others?
If it is someone you know or work with, observe their reactions with colleagues or friends.
Do they exhibit the same mysterious stare and non-smile with others? If it happens with multiple people, you may be able to identify a pattern.
I once noticed in my workplace that a girl used to stare at me often.
I observed her for about a week and soon realized she did that to multiple male coworkers who were unmarried.
Even though we never spoke, but she did hook up with one of the guys.
Likely, she was simply checking the men out.
How does she react to only your actions?
That story helped me realize that I was not the only one getting this treatment.
But are you the only one?
That’s important to know.
Does she adjust her appearance when you are around?
Biting lips, raising eyebrows may also be aids in reactions. These are generally positive reactions.
Notice if she gives a similar reaction to others.
Notice the Microexpressions
Microexpressions are very brief expressions that last for 1/15th of a second.
The best feature to observe it is on the face of a person. A microexpression helps to express the true emotion of a person.
There are largely 7 kinds of microexpressions ranging from happiness, hatred, surprise, sadness, anger, disgust, and fear.
So, if you are still wondering, why do girls stare at me?
Feel free to find the reason amongst the ones we figured out.
Apart from the different things mentioned above, there can be other reasons which may cause her to look at you but not smile.
Good observation skills and seem passing thinking may help you figure out the reason.
However, if nothing works and you feel too anxious, you can always make the first move, and smile!