Last updated on October 5th, 2019 at 06:07 pm
Have you ever wondered why you feel utter disgust at the sight of other people?
Do you think everyone around you is annoying and would rather be by yourself?
Since you may not understand why you feel this way about people, check out these reasons:
What Will I Learn?
- 5 Reasons Why You Hate People
- 17 Effective Ways to Stop Hating People
- 1) Open up your mind
- 2) Improve your interpersonal relations
- 3) Stop making the world all about you
- 4) Learn how to forgive
- 5) Do not have unreasonable expectations
- 6) Let your guard down a little
- 7) Establish boundaries to prevent hurt
- 8) Get to the root of the hate
- 9) Treat each person per case
- 10) Learn effective communication
- 11) Work on yourself
- 12) Seek professional counselling
- 13) Fix previous sour relationships
- 14) Let go of resentment
- 15) Surround yourself with positivity
- 16) Join a club
- 17) Believe in the uniqueness of every human being
5 Reasons Why You Hate People
1) They intrude on your privacy
One of the best things about becoming an adult is possessing a personal space where you can be alone and do things on your terms.
Thus, when someone else keeps intruding into this personal space, it is normal for you to hate them.
And yes when someone intrudes on your privacy, it almost always hurts.
2) They are different
People come in different colours, races and personalities.
Dealing with each difference can be jarring especially if you have lived all your life around the same type of people.
But one thing you should remember is that you can’t stop that.
People will always act differently no matter what, and that can never change!
3) You feel threatened by them
It can be very painful or hurtful, and this is one of the most common reasons why I hate people in the past too.
4) You are a narcissist
You hate people because you think you are the only important person in the world.
You are in love with yourself and do not like the crowding from other people.
And this is something, I believe, affects many people in the world today.
5) You are transferring aggression
You may be going through a rough patch in your life and transferring all the anger and frustration you feel towards the people around you.
Having so much hate inside of you is not healthy, and you are likely looking for ways to stop feeling like that.
Here are practical methods on how to stop hating everyone.
17 Effective Ways to Stop Hating People
1) Open up your mind
When your perspective is limited, you will not welcome new people into your life.
You will easily have unfounded biases about people even before you interact with them.
You have to be open-minded to stop hating everyone around you.
It’s not an easy thing to do, but common, nothing good comes easy.
So go out there and explore places, meet new people, participate in forums and community projects.
2) Improve your interpersonal relations
Make an effort to improve your interpersonal relationships. Do not close yourself off to others.
Try to say hi to your neighbours and put a smile on your face even when you don’t feel like it.
It could be your close friends (if you have any), family members, relatives, or even workmates.
3) Stop making the world all about you
Stop thinking the world revolves only around you.
That’s classic narcissistic behaviour.
While it is good to love yourself, don’t be so into yourself that no other person matters.
Self-love is good when done moderately.
But it becomes a problem when it gets out of hand.
So you don’t want to love yourself to a fault.
4) Learn how to forgive
You may be quick to chant ‘I hate everyone!’ but fail to admit that it started because someone you held dear hurt you real bad.
By forgiving, you will be helping yourself rise above hate and bitterness.
If you don’t forgive, you become embittered.
And when you’re embittered, it fosters hatred.
Extreme hatred almost always leads to severe or acute anger.
That’s when the following happens;
- You hate yourself
- Leading to extreme depression
- Then you hate people around
- Suicidal thoughts surfaces
- And thoughts of murder also surfaces
5) Do not have unreasonable expectations
When you have high expectations of others, you are likely to get disappointed.
You should realize that nobody is perfect and people cannot always measure up to your expectations.
It is quite challenging to set reasonable expectations because our minds are set by default to crave for great things.
And when fail to get those, we start hating on others who play a role in your failure.
6) Let your guard down a little
The world is not out to get you.
You can let your guard down and not always be suspicious of others.
I’m not saying you shouldn’t be suspicious of others whom you believe are trying to harm or hurt you.
What I’m saying is you shouldn’t be suspicious of everyone you meet.
Common, everyone is not a criminal, or murderer or thief.
So let your guard down sometimes is the way to go if you want to stop hating on people.
7) Establish boundaries to prevent hurt
That would only make you hate people who may take advantage of you more.
Establishing boundaries is the best thing to do anywhere and everywhere you go.
It almost always works!
It’ll help you steer clear off dangerous people who would try to take advantage of you.
8) Get to the root of the hate
There is a chance you MAY not stop hating people even after considering all the points mentioned in this article (and I hope such doesn’t happen).
It could be from abusive situations as a child, and those memories could have been suppressed.
Child abuse is one of the many reasons why some people almost instantly hate anyone they come in contact.
9) Treat each person per case
Some people are genuinely unlovable, and there is every just reason to hate them.
But you should not use that standard to judge everyone around you.
Treat each person as a separate case.
It can be quite challenging to do when you’ve met with a few people who betray your trust.
But the truth is, you have to trust someone. You just have to trust someone!
It’s always better to keep your friend’s circle tight.
Try it, and you’ll see a marked difference.
10) Learn effective communication
One of the most effective strategies of communication is listening.
Learn to listen to others.
You might just discover so many lovable traits that you never took time to notice before.
Effective communication is incredibly essential in dealing with almost any human on this planet.
11) Work on yourself
You will have to convince yourself that you want to stop hating people.
I know it ain’t easy to do. But you’ve got to.
12) Seek professional counselling
Do not be afraid to seek professional help.
This could save you from a far worse outcome.
There are many professional psychologists all over America.
So go out there and find a good one closest to you.
13) Fix previous sour relationships
Sometimes, when relationships end and you don’t gain closure over it, the ill feelings you carry with you can take over your life.
It may seem like an uphill task, but it’s not.
What you have to do is jot down previous relationships that did not end right and try as much as you can (if possible) to fix them.
It can go a long way in helping you become peaceable with everyone.
14) Let go of resentment
You cannot afford to hold on to resentment from the past.
This is the principal ingredient that feeds and grows hate.
Holding on to grudges for a long time is the surest way to hate people.
When someone offends, let go of it as soon as possible.
It can be quite a struggle, but it’ll eventually pay off.
15) Surround yourself with positivity
Instead, replace those negative images with positive ones such as that of people doing good things to help others.
16) Join a club
You can’t get over hate for others by always keeping to yourself.
You can join a sport or social club where you can meet people with similar interests.
This shouldn’t be taken for granted.
Moreover, you’ll become lovable, reasonable, kind, forgiven, and happy.
So go look for a great social club in your area and sign up with them.
17) Believe in the uniqueness of every human being
Dwell on the design of each person; both physical and internal and marvel at how unique everyone is.
Being in good terms with everyone is not easy, and I’m not even suggesting you do that.
I sincerely hope that these tips I highlighted will go a long way in helping stop hating people and be peaceable with them.