Your ex may have decided to apply any of these strategies.
When people ‘turn ghosts’, it can be annoyingly worrisome but it’s sadly one of those things you have no control over when it does happen.
It is also possible that your ex has decided not to contact you while creating space for healing.
Understandably, the breakup has placed him at crossroads and he needs to be in a good frame of mind to think about what to do next.
So if your ex is not talking to you, it might be a clear message to maintain no contact for some time.
Reach out again after 20-30 days and see how things will play out.
13) Your ex may have no intention of forgiving you
Your ex may have decided not to forgive you and don’t want to hear you begging. Getting back to talking terms with you may not be acceptable to him at the moment and rightly so.
It’s normal for you not to be at peace with people and it’s the same for other people too.
It’s the reason why you want to make sure that your ex has forgiven you if you were in the wrong.
Even if it’s not your fault, you’ll definitely not going to be at peace with yourself if your ex is still bitterly angry with you.
You cannot afford to let your past relationship bother you too much, but you can still try to reach out and talk things out.
If after multiple attempts, you’re still not able to get through to him, my advice would be for you to move on with your life.
14) Your ex may have some negative feelings about the intent of reaching out
Your ex could have a bad feeling about the reason you’re trying to reach out.
Here are some facts;
After breakups, there may be a kind of competition between former partners; it could be about who is fairing better or who is happier.
Your ex may think you just want to check if you’d moved on or still moody and heartbroken.
Your actions may be seen as manipulating.
You may be perceived to be monitoring him.
Don’t take it for granted that some people mock their ex after a breakup. Laughing at an ex-lover is the meanest and the worst thing to do. Shockingly, it happens and I’ve addressed a few of these cases. This can happen with emotionally immature people who find it easy to make sick jokes and are not sensitive enough.
It’s possible that your ex amplified some of your past wrongdoings and childlike attitude and concludes that you’ll have nothing good to say.
Considering the above scenarios, you have to make sure that you’re serious about making things right or getting in touch for good reasons.
Making your intentions known ahead of the meeting or asking for a chance to talk is a good starting point and can set the tone for your ex to change his mind.
15) You’ve repeatedly been unimpressive with previous opportunities to talk to your ex
Remember that everyone cares about his own personal interest and hardly gives a damn about others.
An average person cares much about his toothbrush at home than an earthquake happening in Japan or Russia.
If you have failed to communicate properly and spark some interest before, your ex may not be willing to listen to you anymore.
If your ex is friendly and wants to talk to you, don’t mess it up this time or you’ll never get another chance.
Some rules of chatting with your ex might come in handy.
Consider some of the points below;
Respect the new boundaries that your ex set.
Share interesting activities.
Show that you genuinely care.
Set your values and respect them.
Lend a helping hand if he asks: if you don’t offer any value either materially or morally, then there could be no good reason to be friends.
Maybe, how you try to initiate a conversation with your ex is not working.
If things develop, don’t take the attention you’ve gained for granted as the journey to attract your ex again would have just begun.
16) Your ex believes you ended the relationship on a very bad note and he wants to pay back in your own coin
Your ex will have more than enough excuse not to talk to you if he believes you dumped him in the most disrespectful manner.
He may also have a good excuse for avoiding you like a plague because he feels you treated him like trash and deserved to be ignored forever.
They say “one good turn deserves another” – and that’s exactly what he’s trying to accomplish here.
It could also be that when you dumped him, he felt so bitter, and now it’s his turn to act as if the bad-dumper doesn’t exist.
All of this goes to show that there is a right and wrong way to break up with someone you love. That’s why it’s very important to break up with your ex the right way.
Be that as it may if you really want your ex to talk to you again, own up to your mistake, make sure you admit your wrongs and find a way to settle the differences you have.
By so doing, you’d have proved to him you’ve changed and are ready to get back to how things were before.
17) Your ex may be preoccupied with other things and wouldn’t want to tell you
If you had a breakup where you talked about why you wanted to end it, your lover may have decided to work on the issues you talked about without letting you know (that’s if he truly loves and deeply cares about you).
During a sort of self retreat and personal improvement, your ex may not want to talk about anything with you.
Did You Know?
Did you know that back in the day (especially in most parts of Asia and Africa), husbands used to send their wives back to their parents to learn some home management skills and manners, and then have her returned to him after he deemed it necessary?
It’s kinda weird if you look at it in a 21st-century line of thought.
Nevertheless, it was an act that showed that the man was not happy with his wife’s attitude/behavior and it could 9 out of 10 times lead to the husband sending his wife away indefinitely.
So what I’m trying to say is that even if you did tell your ex the reasons you wanted to split ways, he may not yet be ‘be done with you’ and is seeking some kind of a refuge someplace and don’t want to be bothered.
Letting you know what he’s up to is not what he’d like to talk about especially after he’d received what may seem like earth-shattering news.
So having a safe space away from your intrusion would be the wisest thing for him to do.