By now, everybody has heard of the ‘open when’ letter phenomenon.
Open when letters have become a sensation among many, and are being used even for friendships, children from parents, and co-workers.
The true reason people use these letters, however, is for their friends or family members, especially when people partake in long-distance relationships.
If you are looking for a way to warm your partner’s heart, catch them off-guard (in a good way!), and give them something they will cherish forever, an ‘open when’ letter is the way to go.
These letters are free, come from the heart, and will be great brownie points in your relationship.
The following are the top 101 open-when letter ideas for you to use for your partner, friends, and close relatives.
What Will I Learn?
Open When Letter Rules
This sweet letter comes with a couple of rules, and for good reason; it gives your special someone something to look forward to.
1) No Peeking
The main rule of this letter is no peeking!
This spoils the surprise and can put a damper on the time and effort your partner put into your letter for you.
2) Keep it a Secret
The next most important rule is that you do not show your ‘open when’ letter to anyone else!
These letters are meant for you and your special someone; they are private, personal, and intimate.
3) Open When Appropriate
And lastly, you are only to open the letter when it applies; for example, if it says “open when you get home” or “open when you are visiting family”, you open your letter at that time.
If you open at any other time, it defeats the purpose of your letter.
What You Can Put in ‘Open When’ Letters
Now let’s look at some things you can put in an ‘open when’ letter to make it sweet and awesome.
1) Add Interesting Things
You can add a multitude of things to your letter to your partner.
However, most people find that adding these things seems to make their letters more heartfelt, sweet, and interesting.
2) Small gifts
Some people have added small gifts, such as;
A gift card
Some type of gift that reminds them of a date
A moment they had
It is entirely up to the writer of the letter what they add if anything.
3) Decorative envelopes
To make letters pop, people have decorated the envelopes of their letters.
[This gives your partner or a friend something to study and look at before opening their letter, and it makes them excited and feels loved upon seeing a decorative envelope rather than a plain envelope.
These instructions can be to call or text your partner after opening, to make sure they have something to drink and a snack in case the letter is very long.
Or to get comfortable and make sure they are ready to read it.
5) Save x amount of letters/ open x amount per week
If you are writing more than one ‘open when’ letter and sending together, you can add a note to make sure your other mate only opens some letters per week.
This makes the letters last longer while you write new ones, or can last your partner until you can visit them.
6) Date mementos
Some people have added date mementos to their ‘open when’ letters.
Much like a small gift, these mementos can be sentimental and several things.
Some ideas being a ticket stub from your first date to the movies, a preserved flower from date number three, or your first photo together.
So now let’s dive right into the meat of this article.
101 Open When Ideas For Your Best Friends
So let’s roll the ball and begin right away.
1) Open When You Are Eating Dinner
For this ‘open when’ idea, you can include memories of dinner dates.
Others have also included photos from their first dinner dates, or stories from when they first made dinner for their friends or family members.
Also, you can even send them a recipe for dinner you’d like them to try one time.
2) Open When You Can’t Sleep
If you write an ‘open when’ later for when your beloved can’t sleep, you can include a playlist for them to listen to that can help lull them to sleep
Or add some book titles they can try that may help them sleep.
Others have simply left small trinkets for their loved ones to hold on to when they try to go to sleep that smells like them and helps comfort them when they are awake out of loneliness.
3) Open When You First Wake Up
This idea is great for couples to write when their other mate is not used to their loved ones not being beside them in the morning.
Typical points in the letter include things you would say when you first wake up, or what you would want to tell your spouse before they start their day.
Little things that make them feel loved and thought of.
4) Open When You Are Visiting Friends
Many couples tend to visit friends of theirs together, and it can be particularly lonely when you are without your best friends.
Writing an ‘open when’ letter that is specifically for times like this can be uplifting.
Adding things such as plans for your next meet-up with friends, or particular memories with said friends can be comforting and fill your mate with peace.
We all need to hear from our partners that things are not as bad as they seem and that we aren’t alone in our battles.
‘Open when’ letters that are full of encouraging words, positive reminders, and tons of love can make anyone who is feeling low and unsure of themselves loved and assured of their place in your relationship, and in their own life.
40) Open When You’re Planning Our Next Visit
Visitations are a huge part of long-distance relationships.
Surprising your partner with an open when letter pertaining to your next visit can be fun and give them ideas.
Suggest places to go, let them know you have a whole day planned for the two of you, and tell them how much you have missed them.
41) Open Before You Call or Text Me
A short but sweet ‘open when’ can be before you have your partner call or text you.
This can be a surprise you add in your letter, a simple I love you or anything you may want to tell them in letter form.
42) Open When You’ve Booked Our Next Visit
Booking a visit to see your special partner is a very exciting time and can be made more exciting with a sweet ‘open when’ letter.
Your letter can include your own excitement, ask where your partner would like to go or what they would like to do, and to make sure they tell you all of the information so you can mark it in your planner or calendar.
43) Open When It’s The Anniversary of Our First Kiss
Anniversaries are exciting and most couples like to celebrate all of their firsts.
This ‘open when’ can be filled with the story of your first kiss so you and your partner can go down memory lane.
And you can include how much you would like to kiss them at the same place as your first kiss for your next anniversary.
44) Open When You Need Something Romantic
Romance is something deeply valued in relationships.
When your partner is needing that extra spark, you can surprise them with an ‘open when’, especially for this moment.
Add something spontaneous you would like to do, tell them you’ve planned a romantic getaway when you are both able to go or write an old-fashioned love letter.
45) Open When You Need Something Funny
Laughter is said to be the best medicine; so when your partner is in need of something humorous, write them an ‘open when letter’.
You can add funny quotes from comedians, write your own funny story just for them, or tell them a funny story from your past that they might not know about you.
46) Open When You Need Something Positive
Positivity is what keeps us going and can save us from losing our minds.
When your partner is having a particularly tough time, it may be time to write them an ‘open when’.
Fill it with positive quotes, and tell them exactly how they make a positive impact on you and your bit of the world.
And share inspiring and positive stories of some of their favorite celebrities.
47) Open When You’re Worried We Won’t Make It
Doubt can creep into the minds of some of the most steady couples, and that’s okay.
When these times hit, simply write an ‘open when’ for your sweetheart.
Let them know you aren’t going anywhere and that you will make time to talk about their worries and concerns.
48) Open When I’m Not Available to Talk
Sometimes we need to talk to our loved ones and they are not available, and this can be painful.
For these times, an ‘open when’ letter comes in handy.
Let your loved ones know that you love them.
Tell them you will be more than happy to clear some space to talk about what is bothering them
And make sure they know you we’re not ignoring them; something important was keeping you away at that moment in time.
49) Open When You Miss Holding My Hand
The simplest gestures, such as hand-holding, can be what your special friend needs.
However, when you live far away, it’s impossible to do; but an ‘open when’ letter can help comfort them on days they need a simple hug or to hold your hand.
Tell them that soon they will be able to hold your hand as much as they want, that you miss their hand in yours.
And remind them of a sweet story regarding when you last held hands.
50) Open When You Finished Watching Our Favorite Movie
Every couple has a “favorite movie” to watch together, and that movie may sometimes bring comfort when their special one isn’t with them.
Write your lover a sweet ‘open when’ to enjoy after the movie; this is when most couples like to sit down and talk whether it’s about life or the movie.
Tell them how you cannot wait to watch ‘your’ movie with them again and how you hope that movie always makes them think of you.
51) Open When Life is Becoming Too Much
Life has a way of draining people and making them feel they are being pushed to their limits, and when times like those hit, an ‘open when’ can remind them of how good life can be.
Jot down how strong they are, how they have made an impact on their community, and how beautiful life truly is.
Remind them you are always there and it’s you and your sweetheart against the world.