Last updated on October 5th, 2019 at 09:17 pm
Are you a foreign man traveling or working in China, whose dating pool is now limited to only Chinese women for a while?
You need to read this to get acquainted with the unique strategies for dating Chinese women.
What Will I Learn?
- Dating a Chinese Girl – The Do’s
- Dating Chinese Women – The Don’ts
- Don’t ever propose splitting bills
- Don’t start a debate on politics
- Don’t mention Japan
- Don’t believe you are the same as the Chinese
- Don’t keep your shoes on
- Don’t talk about dislike for kids
- Don’t force PDA early on
- Don’t try to get down with her too fast
- Don’t lump her with other Chinese women
- Don’t make negative comments about her age
- In Conclusion…
Dating a Chinese Girl – The Do’s
Let’s get started with the dos…
Learn about Chinese culture
This might just be the winning piece that will seal your chances of getting a date with a Chinese girl.
Chinese girls who haven’t lived away from home are not usually open to foreigners.
So, it’s natural for them to treat you with suspicion initially.
A good place to start is learning about Chinese cuisine.
Chinese women love to talk about their foods and how they are made.
Do get along with her family
Chinese women maintain close ties with their family.
It’s common to find unmarried Chinese ladies still living at home with their extended family.
So, their family’s opinions of you are going to matter in the long run.
Respect is an important part of Chinese culture and they will love you for this.
Have honest intentions
If you’re just looking for a loose fling, maybe you shouldn’t bother to embark on the move of dating a Chinese woman in the first place.
So, she will be analyzing your suitability to that purpose.
This doesn’t mean there are no fun-loving Chinese women but just be upfront about your real intentions from the outset.
Maintain a good public reputation
Keeping a good reputation is very important to the Chinese.
As a foreigner, you might get away with some shabby behaviors but if it will rub off on the Chinese woman you have your eyes on, she is likely going to avoid you.
A Chinese woman wants a man she can proudly show off to her friends and family.
You don’t have to be perfect in speaking Chinese as the effort alone would be pleasing to her.
She could even offer to teach you the language which can provide a better opportunity for you to bond.
Listen to her
This is just a stereotype that has been spread for long and is untrue in most cases.
You should ask engaging questions during your date.
Your questions should show a personal interest in her life, career, and family.
Make sure you listen to her.
Buy her gifts
For Chinese women, they tend to connect a man’s generosity to the idea of him being responsible.
It doesn’t have to be expensive gifts.
You don’t have to break a bank to please her.
She will value even the smallest gifts if they reflect your thoughtfulness concerning her.
Dating Chinese Women – The Don’ts
Now to the don’ts, there are many deal-breakers when it comes to dating Chinese women, but let’s focus on the major ones that could get you butted out the fastest.
Don’t ever propose splitting bills
A Chinese woman expects a man to pick up the bills while on a date.
So, you should not ask her to go Dutch with you.
She might just pay half of the bill but she will never go on a second date with you.
As in every culture, some women have their eyes on clinching a rich guy but there are also many more who are merely looking for genuine love.
If she truly likes you, what you can afford won’t matter.
Don’t start a debate on politics
No matter how liberal or free-minded you think you are, it would be hard for you and a Chinese woman to be on the same page when it comes to political matters.
Avoid discussing politics with her by all means.
Don’t mention Japan
Japan is like a taboo word in China.
China and Japan have been age-long rivals.
You may think it’s a good idea to talk about why China is better than Japan.
But stop! It will not end well.
The very mention of the word, Japan, is a bad trigger.
Don’t believe you are the same as the Chinese
This doesn’t mean they have set out to be negative about you, it’s more about ingrained values.
It will always be Chinese first, followed by Europeans and other white-skin nationalities.
Only a few Chinese women will consider dating a black man.
Don’t keep your shoes on
You should follow suit immediately your date removes her shoes upon entering her home.
It will cut out a funny scenario for the grandmother in the home to chase you out with a broom.
You may not be given a second chance to prove yourself worthy of their daughter.
Don’t talk about dislike for kids
An average Chinese woman is interested in getting married and raising a family.
She might not want more than one kid though, due to the previous popular government mandatory policy.
So you should be open to having kids in the long term.
Don’t force PDA early on
Chinese women are not used to a public display of affection.
Even something as simple as holding hands and a peck on the cheek may not be welcomed by her.
Just follow her lead and don’t press for PDA too hard.
Don’t try to get down with her too fast
Just like with PDA, many Chinese women don’t like to have casual sex.
They will rather have sexual relations within a committed relationship.
However, one cap doesn’t fit all.
Just make sure not to demand it in a crude way that makes her feel like a call girl.
If she desires you, she will give you clear signals.
Don’t lump her with other Chinese women
You should not expect her to behave like every other Chinese woman you have met in the past.
Every woman has her distinct qualities and you should admire her for that.
Don’t make negative comments about her age
Chinese women tend to look younger than their ages.
So, it’s common to see a Chinese lady in her 30s looking like a 20-year old.
You shouldn’t make comments to make her feel like an old cargo.
Instead, focus on complimenting her for her beauty and fashion sense.
If you ignore them, your moves may fall flat even before you get started.
Just like with dating anybody from any culture, you should be open to new experiences.
Don’t place your preferences in a box.
Get out there and make your pick already.